“I no longer go to the market. I stay at home, mainly inside.”
Three women sit
together on the pew like seats of a waiting room in a village health centre.
Despite it being midday, the clinic in the province of Kasai Oriental has no
electricity and seasonal thunderstorms have left the room dark and gloomy.
The women chat
while their children play on the dusty floor at their feet. When a small woman slips
quietly through the door, they barely raise their eyes. Dressed in a faded
green t-shirt and blue and white skirt, Grace is grateful they have barely
acknowledged her presence.
Six months ago,
Grace was raped. The mother of two was on her way to sell bananas at the weekly
market in a neighbouring town. There’s little by way of public transport in
this part of the Democratic Republic of Congo and the journey is made by foot,
so long that it involves an overnight stay in a village along the way. Grace
made the journey once a month, each market day netting her a profit of USD7.50,
enough to feed her children.
Grace was beaten and raped by five armed men on her way to market in Kasai Oriental |
Grace eventually
made it home. When she told her husband what had happened, he took her to the local
health centre. Sylvain Tshibona is a nurse at the clinic trained by CARE to provide
both medical, psychosocial and legal assistance to survivors of sexual and
gender based violence.
Sylvain Tshibona, local nurse |
“The
psychosocial assistance is very important for these women,” says Sylvain. “We
need to be able to listen to them, and help them through the trauma they have
suffered.” Since receiving his training, Sylvain has treated a number of
survivors who have come to the clinic, both female and male.
In another
village, Dieudonne Munsensa and three of his colleagues address the small crowd
that has gathered to hear them speak. The four are community mobilisers trained
by CARE to raise awareness about the availability of services for survivors of
sexual and gender based violence. The public meetings and door-to-door visits
are reinforced by public service announcements broadcast on local radio
stations.
Dieudonne, a community mobiliser trained by CARE to spread to the word on accessing confidential services for survivors of sexual and gender based violence in Kasai, Democratic Republic of Congo. |
“If there is a
case of violence, if a person has been raped, we tell them not to keep that to
themselves, because there are many consequences,” explains Dieudonne. “We tell
them it’s important to go to the clinic in order to be treated and to be
helped. The only help is at the clinic, there is nothing else.”
Grace is a shell
of a woman. Her eyes are empty and her voice so small, it’s barely audible
under the drum of the constant rain. During the conflict, the family fled.
Their home was destroyed and all their belongings taken.
In
the Kasai, a woman who has been raped brings shame to her family and lives with
the stigma - often in the form of isolation and social exclusion - for the rest
of her life. Paying compensation to her husband’s family, usually in the form
of household items, is regarded as a way of ‘cleansing” or ‘redeeming honor.”
“My husband is
good and kind to me. He knew I didn’t do this by choice, that I was forced. He
knows I am a good wife,” says Grace, who paid compensation in the form of cash
to her husband’s parents.
But the stigma
remains. “The neighbours talk”, she says. “Not with me but about me to other
people. When I see this, it makes me feel ill. I no longer go
to the market. I stay at home, mainly inside. My heart is okay but I don’t like
to leave home very often. I don’t walk in the village, only when I need to come
to the health centre.”
“My daughter
doesn’t know and I don’t want her to know that this happened to me,” says Grace.
“In ten years I hope I have forgotten about this and my life with my husband will
have continued without pain.”
Grace leaves the
health centre as noiselessly as she arrived, not even the air is disturbed.
It’s like she was never there. As she walks out the door, the three women on
the benches don’t even see her go.
Grace’s name has been changed to protect her privacy
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