Her Fight Against Gender Based Violence
This is the story of Mediatrice, who became the leader of the colline of
Bwoga in Burundi to represent women and to challenge gender-based violence.
"My name is Mediatrice Ndayizeye, I am married
and I have 5 children. I am a farmer and leader of the colline since 2016. I am among the first women to be elected in my
community. This happened after several training's from CARE, teaching us that as
women, we are capable, we have the right to be elected and we can contribute to
shaping the community we want. Before it was difficult to believe that, because
I have been taught that women are responsible for the household, and that we
don’t have the right to speak in public. When I got elected, everyone in the street was
pointing their finger at me. I was a shame to my in-laws and definitely the
last woman that my husband wanted to have as a wife at this time. Therefore, we asked CARE to train our husbands as
well. That is how the first VSLA groups for men were created, with the
objective to get them to support us women."
Mediatrice (in
the middle) with two women from colline councils
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VSLA stands for 'Village Savings and Loan Associations'.
It allows women and men to save money: they put in a little bit of money every
week, and when they need a larger sum of money, they can get a loan from their
VSLA group. A loan to set up a shop, to buy medicines or to pay for books for
school.
‘Every Voice Counts’, a programme implemented in
Burundi and supported by CARE, has linked the meetings of the VSLA groups to
the topic of GBV. By teaching men that they will be more successful in their
business if they for instance share responsibilities with their wives. The importance
of respecting one’s wife is emphasized in these meetings.
"If the men are aware of our rights, the men could help us in the household and that way, we become more independent and we have more time to represent other women in our communities. My husband participated in awareness raising training's and he started to support me. Now, my husband is a member of Abatangamuco. He is a man engaged in the fight against violence against women and girls.''
Abatangamuco is a group
of men, supported by CARE and the Every Voice Counts programme, which helps
their communities to fight against gender-based violence. With men as role
models, Abtangamuco is able to connect with more men within and outside their
communities and discuss together the benefits of respecting and supporting
women and girls.
Gender-based violence is
a broad concept: it includes sexual, physical, emotional and economic harm done
to someone based on their gender, usually targeted at women and girls. Mediatrice
witnessed a neighbor of hers who took advantage of his wife, something that
motivated Mediatrice to become a colline leader:
"The husband sent his wife away and she took
refuge in Bujumbura. He took the opportunity to sell the land that the family
needed to make a living and he got remarried. During this time, I was a colline
counselor. With the women who were in the council, we stood up to say that it
was unfair to sell the family property while his wife was gone. I could not
sleep because I kept thinking about how this woman was going to survive when
she got back. But as only the colline leader, who was a man, could make a
decision, we lost this case. That is how I understood that only a woman could
understand the deeper needs of another woman. That is how we are different.
This injustice motivated me."
Her motivation has led Mediatrice to become the leader
of her colline and to be respected by both men and women. She is striving to
make sure that all women know their rights and she aims to take away all
threats towards women in her colline. In the future, Mediatrice hopes to become
a commune leader. Who can better understand and address women’s issues in the
commune than a woman herself?
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